In the blink of an eye, I shift. In a blink of an eye, you turn. In the blink of an eye, the world changes. In a blink of the eye the universe transitions. In the blink of an eye, there is joy and sadness. In the blink of an eye, something is discovered, and something else is lost. In the blink of an eye, there is resentment and condemnation. Then in the blink of an eye, there is benevolence and tolerance, then acceptance. In a blink of the eye, we become passersby.
Our eyes are the windows to the world, but it is the heart that can change the perception and landscape allowing us to see that as people we are not all that different.
Daily we ask family, friends, and acquaintances, how are you doing? The short answer is usually, I’m doing well. I know, as fully as you, that answer is not always the truth but it has become acceptable. It is the answer we give because we think that no one really cares to hear the reality of how we are really doing. Or better yet, who has the time to stop and talk. It has become a natural tendency to display a mask of perfection and well being at all times. We don’t want anyone to know that behind the light jokes, pleasant smiles, and calm demeanor, there is also fear, worry, and pain.
What can be done to break through the facade of daily interactions and connect with other people in a more profound and caring way? Here are three things that help build a bridge of openness.
One:
Try making eye contact when greeting others. This may sound trivial, but the eyes are a crucial component to communication. I am not sure who coined the phrase “eyes are the window to the soul” but, it has a ring of truth to it. I have felt that the eyes have its own unspoken language when expressing some emotions when words cannot convey a feeling.
Two:
When taking a break at work don’t don’t go alone. Instead, ask a co-worker or friend to join you for a walk even if it is to grab a cup of tea or coffee. I once had a co-worker who became a terrific friend who would schedule breaks around our busy calendars. We would just get outside and walk around the block to clear the brain fog by sharing ideas.
Three:
Instead of asking how are you doing, why not ask, what’s on your mind or what’s on your heart? You may get a strange look if you ask a complete stranger this question because it is unexpected and may seem a bit intrusive. But, it’s a great way to expand on a developing relationship. It immediately opens up the line of communication and lets the other person know that you are genuinely interested in hearing what they have to say.
Think About It: Have there ever been a time that you noticed that someone’s eyes did not match what they were saying, did their eyes display a hidden truth?
